The Other Me


Abseiling with my my sister.

The Other Me.

My children don’t really know her. I had forgotten about her until the other week when we went on a family adventure. My daughter’s birthday, we decided to keep it simple with just the four of us. Willow wanted to do the tree climb at a local fun park. They all wore these cheeky grins when I agreed to come along, like they knew something I didn’t. They had after all experienced the tree climb once before.

The kids jumped around excited that I was keen to come along. Mum usually sat on the beach or the sidelines waving at them and reading a book. Not this time. They warned me it was no easy feat and a bit scary. Especially if the wind picked up. I can tell you I was a tad nervous yet I pretended everything was fine. But I had a secret. My kids had not met the other me, the adventurous one before marriage and babies.

On arrival we lathered ourselves in sunscreen and drank gallons of water in ready for a hot day. I listened carefully to the safety talk, our trusty guides joked with us as they strapped us into our gear. My boy took to the ladder first, like a monkey chasing the last banana at feeding time. Then Pete followed him, up higher and higher with little effort. Willow smiled at me. I know she was checking to see if my knees were knocking. They were but I tried to look calm. She waved, then set off up into the sky towards the first platform.

My turn. I will remind the readers I have not attempted anything this physical in a long while.  But I thought about my years as a backpacker, all the different challenges I set myself. One step after another and using my yoga breath I found myself at the tops of the canopy. I will admit the ladder climb is one of the most challenging parts of the course, just don’t look down. My heart was thumping wildly but I smiled and waved at the kids like I had climbed it one hundred times before.

Foggy memories. The other me abseiling down a mountain cliff, came flooding back. As I attached myself for the ride of my life, I reminded the older me I had experienced much worse. I heard the kids cheering me on as I flew across the park on the flying fox. “Go Mum!”

It felt amazing.

The other me would have been fearless on the ropes and steps of the course. The other me was much younger, blonde and in prime condition. Shaken at first, slowly I gained confidence being up so high. I was thankful for the many weeks of yoga. My upper body strength was not brilliant, but I managed. Climbing nets, stepping across swinging polls and walking on thin cables.

When you reach the end they warned me there is a drop down to a small mat, way down below. Instead of thinking about it, I thought about a sky dive, a tandem  jump I did in my thirties. No fear there.


I wondered why I had changed so much after children. How did I become this safe and boring person. You definitely change when you become a mother. Maybe a bit too serious at times, due to being the discipline police with little ones. Well I’m happy to say, now the children are almost both teens the other me has found her way back. In the last couple of months we have been active, embracing life. Bike riding, walking, using a paddle ski at the beach and now tree climbing. Where will we go next?

When I reached the platform I looked down at my tiny family below, waving up at me. I connected my link to the pulley and jumped, no hesitation. I knew the safety harness and the pulley would slow my decent for a soft landing. The drop was so much fun.

Pete commented at how I jumped off without a thought. I smiled and thanked the universe for all the amazing adventures the other me had experienced. It was cool to see my children look at me in a different light. My only regret is we did not get any photos. In the rush of adrenaline I said yes to doing it all again for my son’s birthday in July. Then I heard they are making a black course which will be even more challenging. Oh well I will have to ask the other me if she is available on that day.

When have you surprised your kids and shown them another side of you? I would love to hear about it.

About Minuscule Moments

Everybody has a DREAM. Today is the first day of the rest of my writing life. Its a lonely world out there when you are learning the craft. This year, as the same as last year, I want to finish my first children's picture book. I have learn't many wonderful lessons on this journey. You are never too old to learn.
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102 Responses to The Other Me

  1. Kath, you weren’t joking about being fun and adventurous! Thanks for sharing this other side of you (although I love the Kath I already knew 😍). And the pics are a beautiful bonus. XO

    • Jennifer you are always so sweet. Today its the arty me ha! Or the tired mummy anyway what ever I am on any given day its fun to think about the younger versions. Yet I love who I am now due to all those experiences.

  2. I agree that every mother has another side before kids! Such a great reminder to loosen up and enjoy some adventure every now and then. You certainly were very adventurous, especially skydiving! Last year at a mountain cabin I went on a very high flying fox with the family. They were very proud of me and it was lot’s of fun.

  3. Elizabeth says:

    Hi Kath, congrats for your adventure, and I love your new profile photo! I have many adventures that my kids don’t know, and sometimes I tell one of them to them, they got surprise that their mommy had done it. You are right, as the time goes by we get scared and unsecured, and our kids think that we were always like this. Have a great weekend!

  4. Hey there Kath, embracing the adventurous you with your kids must be a ride in itself…how liberating! Even without kids, we do get scared as we get older and collect dreams and people whom we are scared to lose. I’m pretty sure my nephews and niece wouldn’t recognise younger adventurous me, either. But maybe I need to take a leaf from you. Stay wild 😉 X

  5. Sara says:

    What an adventure! And such a treat for your “other me” to come out of hiding. Sounds like it was a blast, and I hope you can reunite with your “other me” more often.

  6. What a WONDERFUL story! Thanks for sharing, Kath, and good for you for taking the plunge–literally! Since you asked, I surprised my kids when I played a flute that a relative handed to me at a holiday gathering. They had no idea I could do that.

  7. carlamcgill says:

    Congratulations! What a wonderful experience. Not sure I could muster the strength or bravery, but as I read this post, I thought about the idea that more things are possible than I realize. Nice! Thank you.

    • A month or two ago I would have thought no also Carla but my fitness levels are better after I began doing the yoga.

      • carlamcgill says:

        That is wonderful! I need much more exercise. Taking two-mile walks but not frequently enough each week.

        • I downloaded an app to my phone called runtastic it maps out your walk, calculates how far you walked etc, your fastest times etc and at the end of the week gives you your total exercise, it motivates me a little to keep going. But now the autumn chill is in the air I am going to have to make a bigger effort. 2 miles is awesome, I do 2kms but not enough either.

  8. New Journey says:

    great story…how much fun….I think my son is finally wanting to hear about his mummie…funny, I know I have told him stories before, and its amazing to hear what he thought he remembers…LOL so I am having to go back and retell them….I love it….its fun when its something they can’t believe we have done….hard for them to believe we were young and really adventurous at one time or other……kat

  9. Roy McCarthy says:

    Love it. Good for you Kath, you smashed it. I’m happy to look after the coats and wave. Love the new profile pic.

  10. Luanne says:

    Kath, you absolutely rock!!! Good for you!!! I have never been very adventurous, I’m sorry to say. But I did become WAY less sarcastic when I had kids :).

    • My sarcasm disappeared for awhile Luanne, but now they are teens its back with a vengeance. You need a bit of sarcasm to deal with little know -it-all-mini adults sometimes.

      • Luanne says:

        LOL hahaha. I couldn’t do that when my kids were that age because I was teaching college and I was afraid of being sarcastic to students (which is the WORST thing). Now I feel my sarcasm starting to creep back . . . .

  11. roweeee says:

    Kath, what an incredible post!! You’ve taken nebulous thoughts and feelings I’ve had about how I’ve changed over the years and expressed them so succinctly. Although we naturally take more risks when we’re younger, parenting has brought it’s own changes. Probably the biggest change for me is that I’m now enforcing the rules and boundaries instead of trying to break or stretch them. and that does tend to make you more cautious. I also feel I need to be a good role model for the kids. Behave myself. That said, my son asked me not go cloud chasing wuith my camera during the week as it hailed badly last time and we lost the back of our roof while I was out there. I would dearly love to travel more overseas but it’s more the need of a money tree that’s slowing us down on that front, rather than the kids.

    • Oh how I dream of taking my children to the places I lived overseas. I know my daughter would soak up ant travel OS. My son unfortunately would struggle but one day hopefully we could get there. At the moment we are saving for Tasmania but yes the money tree needs some composting to get it growing Rowena. I tell my children I came from a large family where my parents could not afford travel OS but I did it all when I was older. I hope they do too!

      • roweeee says:

        I know what you mean about the money tree. Ours needs a lot of fertiliser at the moment. Have you been to Tasmania before? Geoff is from Scottsdale in the North East and completed high school and uni in Launceston. The first Newton was a former inmate of Port Arthur. We’re also trying to get down there.
        I revisited Paris via Google Earth which was better than I expected. Had great fun wandering around. Hope you’re having a great weekend. We had my daughter’s birthday party today. We had high tea at a local cae in their back courtyard. Such a relief! Went sooo much better than expected. All the kids got on really well and they did all the work. I used to do all the cooking plus getting the house ready. Brilliant!

        • No I haven’t been to Tassie Rowena I have travelled the world and my plan was to travel Australia in my retirement. Im hoping to do more Aussie travels these days. I might try walking around a virtual London I bet my old haunts have all changed too. High tea would be fun and something different.

        • roweeee says:

          The high tea went really well. I wrote about it in my coffee share today. Give walking around London a try. Paris was a hoot. My the way have you seen the two Mr Chicken books? There’s “Mr Chicken Goes to Paris” and another one for LOndon. We all loved them…me especially! I think they’re written by Leigh Hobbs. They’ll take you back.
          These days my travel is involving exploring places close to home in more detail. This, of course, does not include checking out the house and mess in more detail but switching off.
          By the way, have you ever come across an Australian poet, Nan Whitcomb, who wrote a series of inspiration poems back in the 70s and 80s: “Thoughts of Nanushka”? here’s a link to her website. She really inspired me and I sort of put her in a similar camp to Leunig:
          Hope you have a good week and stay dry. Dogs sleeping inside tonight! xx Rowena

        • Thanks Rowena getting cold here now too will check out the links.

  12. Welcome back, the other you…no, that’s not quite right, the other you IS YOU! Celebrating your openness, courage and trust.

  13. Sue Slaght says:

    I love this post!! I think it is fabulous that your children got to see this old and now returning side of you. For me who was married very young and having children right away, I kind of grew into the adventurous person along with them. For my kids it’s more like what in the world will she dream up next? You go girl! Looking forward to reading about that black course in July. 🙂

  14. reocochran says:

    As a single mother I somehow felt carefree and no adult around to comment or criticize. I climbed trees, hung upside down on monkey bars and chased them around while”It.” As a Nana, I hide under beds, climb trees, Creek walk but neither role have I sky dived or para-sailed. I am still fun but in my mind, not as adventurous as some but active more than most 60 year olds. 🙂

  15. Lotta Wanner says:

    What a great way to find out that other person is still a part of you. I’m glad you so wisely and gently looked for her. Yes, we do change when we have the small young humans to keep safe but as they grow older we can add that experience to the others we have in life and meet them on another level. That is amazing. Thank you so much for sharing. Your bravery encourages me. 💕

  16. Kath, great post and great newsletter you sent out. You’re inspiring to all of us to take leaps of faith towards the dreams we each hold.
    Blessings on your adventurous spirit ~ Wendy

  17. Psychic Nest says:

    When women become mothers they tend to be “boring” only because they try to be protective. Also they try to do “safe” things so as to make sure that they are always there for their children. Amazing adventure though, thank you for sharing!


    • Thank you Zaria Im not sure all mums are that boring, I guess the duty of caring for little ones can shape our future. But as they grow I am feeling free to do more things like I use to. Thanks for stopping by and have a wonderful day.

  18. Good for you!! Love that you used your yoga breath. You do realize this was such a gift you gave your family, adding the precious page to their mental and emotional album you did, Kath. And foremost, one you gave yourself, reclaiming freedom, risk, adventure, and power; the power of saying YES, you CAN. You are (cap)able.


  19. diannegray says:

    This is fantastic, Kath! Wow – I’m so impressed. We do become far more cautious when we have children, but I think you’re finding that groove again. I can’t wait to see the pics when you do it again. Go girl!!! xxxx

  20. Begairath says:

    Ahh…It feels so good to read something so good that gives you reasons to smile.
    Do visit my blog too, I have just started writing and would welcome critics with my arms open as wide as they can be.

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